It sounds like you're talking mostly about a change in attitude. You make it sound easy. It can't be that easy.
No, it's not easy. Sometimes changing the world feels easier than changing our hearts. But there's great motivation to do this. You know when you're looking at that home pregnancy test and it's turned bright blue--that you've got to make a decision. There's first the decision of what you'll do: will you terminate the pregnancy, keep the baby, release the baby for adoption? Those are your three choices. If you choose to keep the baby, then you've got another huge choice to make. Will you receive this baby with apathy and resentment and bitterness, or will you receive her with love? Will you make room for this child in your life or will you not? Once you realize that these are your choices, then it becomes real clear that you've got to choose love. You're going to have to change those diapers, spoon feed, nurse through sickness---you're going to do all those things anyway. Why not do them fueled by love instead of by resentment?
I really saw that at every step through the pregnancy, there was a shift possible. I could stay just where I was--locked in resentment and fear--or I could move forward with anticipation, believe that this change would bring good not harm to my life.
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